Unfortunately, people with fear based theology (nothing to do with god or religion), deal with their fear of allergies by bulling others. I was told to hide the truth about my food allergies and allow them to get to know me without those allergies, then later, once we've made a connection let it be known I have food allergies. I've likened that to dating a time bomb and waiting for the explosion.

In my case, I started looking at what they eat. If they eat meats and poultry and avoid vegetables for the most part, I won't consider them unless they ask me. Then, I'll up and say, I've got food allergies, can you be on board that? If not, I won't waste your time. No problems.

As far as events, depending on what triggers you, if you do not react by touch or smell, simply say that I bring my own food so you don't need to worry about me getting sick. I think finding support groups that meet and have outings also helps. I've not found one yet, but I don't live in the major cities either. The one group I was apart of, only sporadically met and I quit.

Yes. Not fun.

thank you've been helpful. he didn't believe me. a lot of relatives didn't believe me. they never had been tested. but truth be told once my great-niece came up positive with my asthmas it all made sense to my drs. you've been very supportive. u rock.

my neice has. i dont tell anyone not even my boyfriend now my ex. im allergic to oranges and deadly nightshades all of which he refused to believe right before we broke up. he served me some to try to upset me at dinners.it would make me really ill. id ignore him . i use my inhalers . but my neice she needs a epi pen..lots more dangerous people resent us. its a fact. .

Yes. A person’s health is more important than snide remarks and being left out of events. Do what is best for yourself. Having a thick skin towards people that do not understand helps. It’s pointless to attend events to be social, then pay the price afterwards. I know from experience.